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时尚双语:成功经营异地恋

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    It's hard enough to make local relationships work, but having mile, States, and sometimes even an ocean between you makes it even more difficult. However, successful long distance relationships can and do exist. Here's how to give yours every chance to survive and thrive.

    策齐截段本地恋情已然相称坚苦,更何况当两人相隔数英里,可能一个州,甚或是一片海洋。然而,乐成的异地恋确实存在。以下要领教你操作独霸住每一个机遇,让你的异地恋保留并繁荣。

    Step:轨范

    1. Ask the important questions at the onset, to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship.

    首先要弄年夜白一些紧张的题目,从而更清晰地了解你们两人的相关。

    Setting parameters such as naming your relationship (dating, seeing each other, boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged)as well defining exclusive(limited to one person,) non exclusive. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line.

    用些参数来定义一下你们的相关吧,仅仅是想约会、见面、做女伴侣,照样想要文定?对付只身的人来说,也要定义一下你是不是独身只身主义者。答复这些题目确实既坚苦又难堪,不过这么做可以免去你永无绝顶的头疼和曲解。

    Example: "Are you open to the possibility of relocating if the relationship should become more serious?" or "What are you looking to get out of the relationship?". Stating your end goal or ideas will allow each person to maintain what they need.

    举例来讲:"要是两人的相关更进一步,会思量搬场吗?"或是:"互相想从两人的相关中获取什么呢?"定义你的最终方针和理念会让两个酬报此合营策划下去。

    2. Do things together. Defy the distance. 统一协作,鄙夷间隔。

    As a long distance couple, it's important to do other things together besides the usual phone call. In a long distance relationship, interaction over the phone can become dull in the long run. Incorporating other forms of interaction are important.

    很紧张的一点,作为异地情侣,除了寻常打电话你们还应该一路做些其它工作。耐久打电话是不是很无聊?考试测验其他情势的协作很是紧张。

    Just think… people in short-distance relationships do not spend the majority of their time talking, but rather doing things with each other. Try to replicate this by finding things to do together such as watching a TV show or movie simultaneously.

    想想看,非异地的情侣毫不会花很多时刻去打电话,而是一路去做一些工作。你们也要考试测验着这样做,只管即便找点可以一路做的工作,比如看一样的电视节目或影戏。

    3. Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible. 不管怎么着,天天都交换,并且尽年夜概的多些吧。

    Since you won't be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don't always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use an instant messenger program or web cams for that visual connection.

    只管你们看不到对方,可是成立和维持情感上的雷同非凡很是紧张。并不老是必要冗长而又有深度的交换。互相分享小成绩或是小妨害。互相征询定见。发短信或是聊QQ,要不就去视频谈天。

    E-mail is great so make sure you use it, especially if long-distance phone calls put a strain on your budget. Remember that e-mail and even instant messengers can increase the possibility of misunderstandings. Write love letters. Send small gifts or flowers for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. You may discover an advantage over others whose partner is close at hand--you don't take communication for granted!

    尤其当长途电话让你荷包仓促的时辰,不要忘了电子邮件的所长哟。但也要记取电子邮件和短信年夜概会引起你们之间的曲解。写封情书吧。或是没有什么启事地送点小礼物可能花。这样,交换的数量就会和质量一样紧张了。你会发明你乃至比那些非异地恋的人有上风--由于你们不会把交换视为例行工事。

    4. Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers. 操作异地恋带来的上风。

    More time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps, the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again after a long absence, time to mull your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to that email she/he wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, etc. Most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality--something that can get lost in the shuffle when couples spend all their free time together.

    有更多的时刻随同你的伴侣和家人,不会为鸡毛蒜皮的小事争持,而且持久疏散后的相聚会越发甜美。当你碰着对方提出的无理要求或是其他近似情形时,你有更多的时刻去决计,而不是像非异地那样给你的人当头一棒。更紧张的是,你们之间的间隔让你得以贯串毗邻自己的本--而这些都是轻易在情侣日日相处的年光里消磨失的对象。

    5. Pursue common interests. 寻求合营的喜爱。

    If there's a movie you're both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time. Stargaze while you're on the phone. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, and synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch goes off, and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too. Find creative ways to bond.

    要是有一个你们都感乐趣的影戏上映了,那么各自去看,然后电话交换不美观后感。同时阅读一本书。打电话时一路做日间梦。让你们的腕表时时候刻都表现不异的数字,让你们的闹钟同时响起。在天天的某暂且候同时想念对方,领会而今对方也在想念你的甜美。阐扬你的缔造力,让你们更切近互相。

    6. Avoid the temptation to be controlling. 忘怀完全节制对方的杂念。

    People have free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not make a difference.

    人生来整洁,没有人可以或是应该被其他的人节制。既然你们抉择选择这段异地恋情,就要接管这个毕竟,何况这和异地也没有肯定的接洽。

    As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match--or someone else is a better match--your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over, or share the same bed with your wedding picture on the wall. You are going to have to trust each other completely if this relationship is going to work.

    要是一方感受和另一方不是很合得来,或是一方有了更好的器材,那么不论你们是相隔3000英尺照样两条年夜街,再或是睡一张床上而墙面上还挂着你们的婚纱照,你们的相关都玩完了。而只要你们的相关还在接连,那就要完全地信托对方。

    7. Visit often 多见面

    Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible or as often as your budget permits you to. A relationship cannot thrive if the only thing you have is the phone calls. You need to see each other up close and personal every chance you get. The key here is to set up some "rules" about frequency of communication and visits and stick to them, consistency can help a LDR survive.

    要是时刻许可,预算许可,那能多见面就多见面吧。只打电话是不能让感情茁壮生长的。只要有机遇,就要面迎面。这方面的窍门是成立一系列关于一般交换和见面的"轨制",坚持实行,如容许以保住你们异地恋的小命儿。

    8. Avoid jealousy and be trusting. 不要妒嫉,要信赖。

    One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. When you start a long distance relationship you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always helps if you go in a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worth of trust until proven otherwise.

    妒忌和过激是杀作古康健感情最快速的毒药。当你抉择起头一段异地恋时,你必需了解到前路艰巨。当没有什么能证实毕竟并不是云云时,你应该以为每个人私家都灵活天真、值得信赖,这么想会有利于你们的相关。

    Don't fall in the trap to interrogate your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message. Just because you are in a LDR, you lives won't pause. Your partner will naturally have a social life where he/she lives and so should you. Sure it helps to have your eyes open and not be totally naive but being overly suspicious is unhealthy for you and your relationship too.

    不要失入诸云云类的陷阱:比如诘责你的另一半为什么要和你不了解的人饮酒,或是为什么对方没有连忙回你的电话或短信。恰是因为你们身处差此外处所,你们的糊口在接连,以是你们互相固然应该在各自的圈子里有各自的外交糊口。你固然必要睁年夜眼睛,也不能太傻太灵活,但太过的狐疑绝对倒霉于你们的相关。

    9. Know when to say good-bye. 知道怎么说再会。

    While this is tough in any relationship, this can be especially hard over long distances. When communication becomes one-sided or sparse for too long and for no apparent reason, when arguments become too frequent, when the whole thing just seems like more trouble than it's worth, it's time to re-uate the relationship. You have to remember that for a healthy relationship, no matter how far or close, you must be willing to let go.

    对任何范例的感情来说,离散都不好受,对异地恋来说更是这样。当时刻或说不出来的缘故起因让交换变成只言片语或无比有数,当争持几回现身,当整个形势沦为本不该成为的年夜累赘,那么,是时辰从头审阅你们的感情了。必需记取,对付康健的感情,无论咫尺或是海角,该罢休时就罢休。

    Long distance dating is all about a balanced relationship between partners; a relationship built on strong foundations of trust, understanding and determination to make it work. The two partners should be reasonable about their expectations and willing to cooperate so that this relationship can lead to a happy ending. If these parameters are taken care of, you have nothing to worry about.

    异地恋便是情侣间杀青平衡相关的一种感情;成立在信赖、理解理睬和锐意基本上的感情必将有所收成。两个人私家理当理性地对待合营的等候和意愿,合营全力,这样这份感情就会修成正果。要因此上身分都被当真思量过了,那么,别有什么好担忧的了。




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